Heyyyyy. I can’t believe its only a month to my wedding ceremony!!! Can’t believe it. But I’m so excited!! I can’t wait to be married to my own!! Yes MY OWN!! I remember when I started this blog at the beginning of the year It didn’t even cross my mind that I would be getting married this year or even next year to be honest. But heyyy God works in ways we cant explain most of the time, at least that’s what my experience has taught me. I was inspired to share this because I want people to know that when God speaks we should always listen and not just listen but follow His instructions.
Prior to this I was in a relationship and I struggled in it, not because he wasn’t a ‘good guy’, but because I had no peace about it. Of course we had our differences and things that we didn’t necessarily agree on but beyond all that I just never felt at peace and what I did was to fight it and try my best to ignore that voice that will tell me ‘this isn’t it’. I would even pray to God, asking Him to bless the relationship etc. I learnt that you don’t ask God to bless that which He didn’t ordain/that which is outside His will.
To cut the long story short, this year (2015) I started to grow more into the things of God. I had an encounter with God and the Holy Spirit began to teach me on how to fellowship and build my relationship with God. I began praying more, reading more, understanding Gods word even better than before and for the first time it didn’t feel like a religious exercise, it was beautiful (still is). I wasn’t just aware of Gods word anymore, it started changing me.
With that I began questioning a lot of things in my life especially my relationship at the time. I knew God was (still is) taking me on a journey and the only way that could be fully established is to be appropriately aligned to Gods will. Now here I was, in a relationship that I wasn’t sure God had stamped. I kept pushing and pushing but something wasn’t quite right. Eventually, after counseling, praying and fasting, God instructed me to end the relationship. It was difficult, especially when the other party hadn’t done anything particularly wrong. Notwithstanding, I knew that was the right thing to do but my first thought was how I didn’t want to break his heart or how I didn’t want people to call me names, and then there was the fact that people may not believe that this was indeed an instruction from God. However, The convictions in my spirit and the several confirmations from God superseded all other thoughts and fears, and God reminded me that my obedience to His instruction should not be dependent on the other party or on other people understanding or agreeing to it. I knew I was doing the right thing by ending the relationship, simply because it wasn’t the will of God. As soon as I did it, I felt peace. I wasn’t lonely; my heart wasn’t troubled; I filled every empty space with the Love of God that there was no room for loneliness.
Not too long after, BOOM!! God did what God does best. Show Himself!!! I believe that anytime we make room for God, He displays! God brought the man of my dreams!!! I never knew it was possible to have such a person but God proved his Sovereignty yet again. I am more than grateful, more than happy, more than content with my Husband to be. This is a man that Loves the Lord with all of His heart and would never compromise on Godly standards. Also very HANDSOME!! (if I do say so myself). The essence of this post is not to bash my previous relationship or ‘celebrate’ my present one but to admonish people not to settle for that, which is not of God. Always listen for Gods instructions and follow them.
Please don’t stay in a relationship because of what you think you can ‘get’ from it or because you’ve been with the person for years or because you are sexually attached or because you don’t want to be alone. That in itself is bondage. You are Gods Special child, In fact the scripture says you are not your own. So, He will always have great plans for you, relationship or no relationship. What He wants is for us to seek him and He will add every other thing to us (Matthew 6:33). The level at which we hold on to things or people that we have no business holding on to is a testament of our lack of faith/trust in God.
The thing is the devil knows that once you’ve given your life to Christ, he loses the right to your life and thus cant destroy you, but what He tries to do is distract you from Gods plans and purposes. So he may take you off course through meaningless relationships, ungodly friendships, etc just to distract you, but you have to keep your eyes on God and focus on His word. The sex is a distraction, the good looks are a distraction, the money is a distraction, and the gifts are a distraction. Let go.Let go of that idea, that person, that lifestyle that’s not of God. Ask God to help you! Let it work out in His timing. When God comes into your life, He calls you into the deep, He gets rid of shallow things, people, ideas, concepts, and brings you into deep truths, people, ideas and concepts. If I hadn’t obeyed the instruction and was scared of being lonely or what people will say, and didn’t let God step in, I wouldn’t be experiencing the Joy and Love I’m experiencing today. I am so happy planning our wedding, no worries, no fears to the glory of God! If God could only open our eyes to see whats on the other side of our obedience.
Dear God, grant me the grace to hear you and to obey your instructions. I commit my life to you, as I know you have the best plan and purpose for me. I choose today to let go of every relationship that does not glorify you and is not of you. I will seek you FIRST and I trust that every other thing will be added. Thank you God because I know that from this moment there’s a difference in my life and there’s no looking back.
TO BE CONTINUED…