As usual, I was on twitter lol then I came across a tweet “Does Love still count or is wealth the new Love?” Now while that was an interesting question, that is not the crux of the writing today. What actually caught my attention was one of the replies someone gave…”Love is not enough”. Well that got me thinking. Really? Why isn’t it enough? In fact, not enough for what exactly?
Its interesting that these days we see or hear things from our peers or from movies and before you know it we adopt the things we’ve seen or heard. We don’t pay attention to the meaning, we just hear it and because we like the way it sounds, it becomes a part of our lingo, endorsing it because we haven’t decided to find out the truth for ourselves, so we run with it.
For instance, when two (2) people ‘love’ each other BUT it seems like they have difficulty in accommodating each other’s shortcomings, they resort to the popular “I Love you but its not enough” because they’ve heard it before and it sounds cool or because of whatever deep reason they may have.
I can’t count the amount of times I’ve heard it and it’s got me thinking, what does that even mean???? ‘I love you but it’s not enough’. In order to answer this I had to discover the true meaning of love. What better place to find the truth than in Gods Holy Book.
I’m sure when we were in high school we all had that one person we thought we ‘loved’ because we were attracted to them and we thought we couldn’t do without but eventually the ‘feelings’ faded when our minds stopped being stimulated by whatever the person was offering (be it in their looks, personality or body as the case maybe). Well, I’m sure with time we realised that wasn’t love, just a mere attraction.The idea of love has been so distorted in our minds that it’s become difficult to understand what it actually is. There are lots of books or articles out there and movies that have given us their own meaning or idea of love and one thing they have in common is in the definition. “Love is an intense emotion or a feeling etc…”
The reason we think love is not enough is because of what we feel it is. A lot of us think it is a strong emotion or an intense feeling, which inadvertently means that when we stop feeling those things we stop loving, like the guy or girl from high school or even presently.
The good thing is that love is agreed to be a verb and from our understanding of that, a verb is an action word or doing word.
Well, Love is not in the feeling but rather in the doing! Love isn’t love until it is evident and must be expressed for it to be love. It is tangible; you can touch it, hold it and even BE it.
Now people say there are different types of love. Rather, I think there are different ways of expressing love or different manifestations of love but not different types. Love is simply love. Very simple but not simplistic by any chance! Contrary to popular belief what will actually keep you going when the butterflies stop flying, the goose pimples stop goosing, or the pepper is now awake and no longer resting, is that beautiful thing called Love (kindness, perseverance, understanding etc).
The Bible did good to give us characteristics of Love. It says in 1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 7:
“Love is patient love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
These are things that we are to embody as people who claim to know what Love is. Are we patient? are we kind? do we trust? do we protect? are we easily angered? etc Or is it just when its convenient, such as when the person is ‘easy’ to love, or based on certain conditions? Well ‘Unconditional love’ is kind of a paradox if you ask me because the nature of love isn’t and shouldn’t be based on conditions anyway. So if our love is based on conditions then really thats not love.
The greatest love story ever told is God! Who gave his only begotten son for our sake (JOHN 3:16) WHEN we weren’t deserving of that kind of sacrifice. That is Love!
Love is sacrificial in nature and by what we know a sacrifice to mean it is not easy, neither is it convenient. Thats why it is a sacrifice. Love is that tangible expression of something to someone who is not necessarily deserving of it at the time of the expression. Its like giving your patience, loyalty, understanding, tolerance, attention, forgiveness, kindness, even affection to someone even when it doesn’t make sense to do so. Love defies our human senses or mere emotions because if someone just upset you, the last thing (according to your emotions) you wanna do is show them love, but thats how love works.
The Bible in 1 John 4:8-
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.
The only one true definition of Love is God. The characteristics that were earlier identified just described the attributes you find when you want to identify Love. But the only definition that could be given for Love IS God! I mean its basically saying ‘oh you wanna know what love truly is? Well go check God out! That’s who Love is” Love is personified in Gods character towards mankind.
So in essence, to say Love is not enough is to say God is not enough. I know that’s heavy but it’s the truth(topic for another day). God is love personified and as christians we ought to embody that character of God in our loving because what we think Love is, is not what love really is.
I actually think it should be personalised, ‘my attraction for you is not enough’ or ‘the feelings I have for you is not enough’ for whatever its not enough for and not ‘love is not enough’ of which those are mere physical or emotional attractions often referred to as lust…because when we display love, it conquers and bears all things. Its more than enough. The scripture says, in 1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Do you realize the magnitude of that? Love is that thing that covers the annoying behaviour your friend or spouse displayed. etc It is our actions that haven’t been sufficient to sustain the relationship (whatever kind) and Not Love. Because LOVE by its very nature CONQUERS ALL. So how can something, which can conquer anything and all things, not be enough? It is not always easy but by the grace of God we are able. Love is everything and yes it is more than enough! (Always has been, always will be).
More on the Love Series…watch this space
Feel free to drop your comments, opinions, questions etc.